Saint Nicholas is back in Spain, so in our home, we can start preparing for Christmas! I was born and raised to understand that Christmas is about a baby born on December 25 (although, let’s be honest, historians are still debating that date) who was supposed to save me from original sin.
That’s the story I grew up with, and for years, saying “Merry Christmas” was as natural as putting up the belen (nativity set). But as I’ve learned more about the world and the beautiful diversity of traditions that fill it, I’ve come to realize something important: I can’t assume the person in front of me shares my traditions. And that’s where the art of inclusive holiday greetings comes in.
Why inclusivity matters
The holiday season is rich with celebrations that go far beyond Christmas. From Hanukkah to Kwanzaa, from the Winter Solstice to New Year’s Eve, December is a time of meaning for many—and for some, it’s just another month.
By choosing inclusive greetings, we’re not abandoning our traditions but making room for others. It’s about recognizing the diversity of our friends, colleagues, and neighbors. Inclusivity is about connection, and connection starts when we meet people where they are—not where we assume them to be.
Breaking down the pitfalls
It’s easy to fall into well-meaning but exclusionary habits during the holidays. Here’s what to watch out for:
Assuming everyone celebrates Christmas: A cheerful “Merry Christmas” can feel isolating to someone who doesn’t. It’s like inviting them to a party they weren’t planning to attend.
Overusing generic phrases: “Happy Holidays” is a great fallback, but if it’s your only message, it can lack the warmth and sincerity that make greetings special.
Overlooking those who struggle during this time: The holidays can be hard for people who’ve lost loved ones, experienced hardship, or simply don’t feel festive. A message that’s more about peace and connection can resonate better than one brimming with cheer.
What does an inclusive greeting look like?
An inclusive greeting is thoughtful, warm, and mindful of the diversity of experiences during this season. Here are some tips to craft one:
Be neutral but genuine: Something like “Wishing you a joyful holiday season” keeps things broad without feeling cold.
Celebrate new beginnings: Almost everyone recognizes the New Year. Adding “and a wonderful New Year” ensures your greeting feels relevant to everyone.
Adapt when you can: If you know someone’s traditions, it’s thoughtful to tailor your message. Inclusive doesn’t have to mean one-size-fits-all.
Tried-and-true inclusive greetings
Here are a few examples to inspire your next message:
- “Wishing you peace and joy this holiday season and a bright start to the New Year!”
- “May your holidays bring moments of rest and renewal, and may the New Year be full of possibilities.”
- “Whatever you celebrate, I hope this season is filled with light, love, and connection.”
- “Sending warm wishes for the season and a happy New Year to you and yours!”
These phrases embrace the spirit of the season without leaning on any single tradition.
In other words
This time of year isn’t just about the greetings we say—it’s about the goodwill we share. Inclusive holiday greetings may seem like a small gesture, but they reflect something bigger: a commitment to making others feel seen, heard, and valued.
So, as we hang up the decorations and write our cards, let’s remember that the holidays aren’t one-size-fits-all. By choosing thoughtful, inclusive language, we can ensure our cheer shines for everyone.
After all, isn’t the heart of the holidays about connection?
What’s your favorite way to spread cheer inclusively?
